Making Homecoming Safer: Tips for Parents and Hosts

Homecoming is one of the most exciting times of the school year. Students look forward to the dance, football games, and celebrating with friends. For parents, it can also bring concerns about underage drinking and substance use. Across Central New York and the Finger Lakes region, surveys show that alcohol remains the most commonly used substance among youth. Regional prevention efforts consistently highlight that clear rules at home and community support can help lower these risks.

As parents and caregivers, we can support safe and fun homecoming celebrations by taking practical steps before, during, and after parties. Safe hosting is not about eliminating fun. It is about creating an environment where everyone can enjoy themselves without unnecessary risks.

Why safe hosting matters

The 2023 CLYDE Youth Survey in Tompkins County showed that 12% of students reported drinking alcohol in the past 30 days, and one-third have used alcohol in their lifetime. The concern, however, is that nearly 30% of youth who did drink reported binge drinking. These numbers remind us that while many teens are making healthy choices, too many still face pressures and risks around alcohol and other substances.

The picture in Cortland County is similar, with concerns around access. According to the 2024 Cortland Youth Survey, roughly one-third of students said alcohol was easy to get, with the number one source being at home with parental permission. Local data showed that students who felt less connected to family were more likely to report drinking, while those with strong family support reported lower rates of alcohol and substance use. When youth felt like their parents had clear rules on drinking, they were less likely to report drinking.

Homecoming weekends are often a time when these risks appear more sharply. Social gatherings, whether in homes or off school property, are key points where underage drinking can occur.

Safe hosting guidelines for families

The most effective prevention often begins with clear expectations. Talking with your teen ahead of time about family rules sets the tone and ensures that they understand underage drinking is not acceptable. If you choose to host a gathering, consider doing so in your own home, where you can supervise the environment. Partnering with other parents to co-host can also provide consistent oversight.

It is important to know who is attending. Keep gatherings small, ask for RSVPs, and check in with other parents to confirm plans and transportation. Limiting access to alcohol is another crucial step. Lock away any alcohol in the home and do not allow guests to bring their own. Creating an enjoyable atmosphere with snacks, non-alcoholic drinks, music, and games can help shift the focus from alcohol to connection and fun.

During the event, stay visible. Circulating through the space shows that you are present and available while still allowing teens to enjoy themselves. Plan ahead for safe rides home and communicate with parents to make sure no one is left in a risky situation. Finally, be prepared for emergencies by keeping phone numbers handy and making it clear that safety always comes before punishment if something goes wrong.

Moving forward as a community

Parents are most effective when we work together. Sharing expectations, supporting one another, and promoting safe hosting across neighborhoods helps create a consistent message for youth. Local organizations in Central and Finger Lakes counties provide prevention resources, and schools often offer data from youth surveys that can be shared at PTA meetings or parent nights.

Homecoming should be remembered for positive experiences, not regrets. By setting clear boundaries, offering safe alternatives, and staying actively involved, parents can protect young people while allowing them to enjoy this important tradition.

Here is a checklist format for you to follow to keep parties safe and fun!

Want more safe hosting tips and other parenting resources/information? Head over to the safe365ny.org website to learn more.

References:

The Rural Health Institute of New York (RHI). Results and Analysis: The 2024 Cortland Youth Survey.

Tompkins BOCES. (2023). CLYDE Survey (Catalyst Insights, analyst). Tompkins BOCES.